May 2010 Archives
The Heart of a Friend
What kind of friend are you for those who love you? Is your heart one of friendship or of selfishness and self-centered? What do you want from your friends that you are not willing to give back?
I want to be loved, I want to be appreciated, I want to be important to someone? Is this the same thing you want? Is this the same thing you are willing to be for your friendships as well?
Life is precious when we learn how to enjoy the simple things that we have right in front of us. Those we love are the only ones who really matter in life. We need to cherish those things we hold dear and not abuse them.
Are you beginning to appreciate what “More Than Frosting” means to you? I hope so? I hope you love with the right heart and bless the lives of those around you because of the heart inside you want to do so. I would love to hear your story and how a change of heart changed your life. If you want to share it with me, and give me permission to include it in my book, let me know.
Most Beautiful Things About Women
To summarize, it is amazing how women are so wonderfully giving and loving. Their love is unconditional and forever. And once they forgive, they really forget.
A Woman is wonderful: she is giving; she is gentile; she smiles with her heart and speaks with her eyes; she blushes when she wants you; she never passes judgment; she is loving, with unconditional love; she is forgiving, sensual, and nurturing; she is understanding; she is intoxicating.
In contrast, we often see women portrayed as sexy, voluptuous, attractive with sexy bodies, sexually inviting, good lays, and not very intelligent. This is actually demeaning to womanhood and to their creation. Women used to be put on a pedestal and admired for her special qualities, which are now thought of as old-fashioned.
Qualities for which women were admired in the past include their intuitive and spiritual abilities, their purity and wholesomeness, their natural ability to be a good cook, a good homemaker and caring wife. She was also recognized for her frugality: she knew how to cook good meals out of almost nothing; she could sew new outfits and mend socks; she knew how to knit and crochet, tat lace, and embroider pillowcases and towels. These qualities are rarely admired in women today; in fact, these qualities are all but lost in the modern woman. Now she is a career woman and competes with men for recognition.
I would like to see women return to the values for which men used to put her on a pedestal. These women provided value to society other than the sex that they are known for today. As a result, women have been devalued and sexuality is all they are good for now. This is sad, and so our youth are deprived of their womanhood because their mothers no longer teach these characteristics in the home. Men are partially to blame for this situation.
Men have forsaken women who posses these values and characteristics, and replaced them with the sexual pervasive. Thus, out of necessity, women have had to enter the work force in order to care for themselves and their families. They must become a wage-earner plus the mom, an uncomfortable place to be for most women. She can’t be the woman she wants to be because she has not the energy or the time to be a homemaker, a wage-earner, and all the other hats she is forced to wear. Children grow up seeing a different role model than older women had as a child. Sadly, women lose the skills and characteristics of past generations and men begin remodeling today’s woman.
How many young women today know how to keep a clean house, cook good and nutritious meals, or sew, knit, crochet, and tat lace? How many men look for women with these characteristics? How many men really look for sex appeal in a women instead of her values?
I think I’ve made my point. Perhaps you can help me change this situation. Older women can adopt a young women and teach her what she is missing in society today. Teach her to preserve and can foods. Teach her to sew and mend her own clothes, and how to crochet and knit her own sweaters, scarfes, and ponchos. Teach her the tricks of the trade in being a good housewife and mother. Can you do that for our young women today?
Young women, would you please find someone to adopt as your grandma and ask her to teach you these things? And would you commit to living a more wholesome lifestyle that cause men to put you on a pedestal as being different than most women they know…and makes you special? Will you pass along what you learn to other young women and be an example to them? Thank you dear, I appreciate your efforts.
The Miracle Of Friendship
This type of relationship is what I am talking about when I say you need more than frosting. Developing a deep and lasting relationship with people should be based on more than their appearance. It should be based on how they make you feel, especially when you need a friend.
Does your love interest meet the standard of relationship shown in the videos above?
If not, then why do you waste your time with him or her?
Why have you not recognized that you want more from your relationship than the one you have now?
What do you plan to do about it?
It is important to understand why we want to be around the people in our lives and know why we love them.
- What is it about them that we cherish?
- If we cannot find something about them that we cherish, which is not associated with sex appeal, then perhaps we are living a shallow life.
Living a shallow life is like the frosting on a cake; it is sweet but has no substance . We want to enjoy the beauty, smell, flavor, and texture of a good cake. We want to take in the full pleasure of the cake, which offers us much more than just beautiful frosting with all the trimmings.
However, sometimes our taste changes. For some reason, the relationships we have become unsatisfying. Perhaps we’ve discovered our own shallowness or we recognize the emptiness we feel in the relationship. For whatever reason, we realize the time has come to move on.
There is a time and a season for every purpose under heaven. Use this principle as you watch this next video and consider your present relationships.
Why are you still in the relationship when you are not as happy as you should be? Could it be caused from low self-esteem and self-worth? If so, watch this video and see if you don’t feel better afterwards.
