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Beauty Only Skin Deep

  • Posted on March 23, 2010 at 11:42 pm

As a teen, I came in 8th place out of 25,000 in the Miss Teenage San Francisco Pageant. Also, I was a Wendy Ward Girl and modeled clothing for Montgomery Wards, and a Model for Mc Calls (where I modeled with Sally Fields in San Francisco when she was 17 years old). In addition, I was a Pacesetter and wore new trends of clothing to school at my High School – for example, the hip-hugger skirt and pants. In other words, I was pleasing to the eye as a teenager.

As the years passed and I grew older, I still had a degree of natural beauty but felt ugly because of my weight. I could not understand why men would still look at me and flirt when I was so overweight. I wore a size 18 then and that seemed fat to me; it’s too bad that I can’t fit into size 18 now. Illness, car accidents, injuries, child bearing, and age all have had a toll on me, so I felt even uglier.

At sixty-one years old, I still get a lot of invites from men on social sites. They are always telling me how beautiful I am and how my blue eyes and smile make them happy.  I used to think all of it was just flattery so that I would accept them as a friend; I am sure that is probably true in most cases. However, even when I try to tell them I am heavy and have gray hair now, they won’t recant their admiration. I thought that was strange of them because I am not sexy at all.

Why were men (young and old) still aggressively flirting with me? I didn’t get it until I began to understand the message of frosting on a cake. I realize now that I am very different than most women today, and so men are drawn to me because they see that I am different.

Then my brother (who was single at the time) complained about women today. He said they are shallow, few of them have moral standards, and many of them act like female dogs in heat. As we talked more, the concept for this site and book  (“More Than Frosting©”) was born. It seems obvious that this type of book and site have a place today. (Note: the book “More Than Frosting©” is still being written and should be released before Christmas.)

I worked in a glass manufacturing plant in the nineteen seventies, and noticed the beautiful women who worked there. I also noticed they wore nice clothing and shoes, had perfect nails and hair, and their makeup and cologne were expensive. This observation caused me to consider how much money they must spend on themselves and how much they have left to spend on their families?  No wonder they have to continue working, I thought. They need to keep up with their expensive lifestyle.

Am I being condescending and judgmental about my appraisal of these beautiful women? Perhaps so, and perhaps not; it is not for us to decide. The point is that we may be beautiful on the outside and yet, what is on the inside may be anything but beautiful.

Some beautiful people are just plain beautiful inside and out, and just plain sweet. I am not talking about these type of people, we all know who they are and we like being around these people. What I am talking about are those who appear to be all frosting with not much inside to make them lovely throughout.

I hope this is the type of person that I am now; I believe that I am.  However, one thing I do know is that, in many ways, I am very different from most women. I also know that I am different because I make an effort to be different. I want to be a good person, and to be one with whom my Father In Heaven will be pleased. I would hope this will be your goal as well.

I welcome your comments on this subject.




  • Posted on March 20, 2010 at 10:45 pm

~ Pass It On ~

Someone taught you how to love,

and probably didn’t know it,

and in return, with every day,

it’s now you’re turn to show it.

When you love, you give a gift,

and when you’re gone it stays,

to be passed on by the ones you loved,

to make someone else’s day.

So remember someone who loved you,

and show how much you care,

by sharing all the love they gave,

with people everywhere.

When you give away your love,

that doesn’t mean it’s gone.

Love will last forever, so open up your heart and pass your love on.

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Friendships Are More Than Frosting

  • Posted on March 20, 2010 at 4:41 am

Listen to the lyrics and think about how the video applies to friendship being more than frosting.

We are all different and have different points of view. It doesn’t matter how different we are because friends have something in common, being there when they are needed. It doesn’t matter if the friend is black or white, brown, yellow or red. Gee, I guess they can even be green. All that matters is who they are inside. Isn’t that what more than frosting is all about?

I hope the words to this video stays in your mind for a long time and reminds you of how we need to look past the outside cover of a person and love what is inside them.

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It’s More About The Cake Than Frosting

  • Posted on March 2, 2010 at 12:37 pm

More Then Frosting

Which cake would you want to bite into?

Take a look at these two cakes. One looks delicious and very enticing. The other cake sits in an ugly pot, it has no frosting, and it does not appear to be tasty.  However, the ugly cake is actually moist and the most delicious.

People are similar to these cakes.

Some of us spend a lot of time and money on making ourselves look good, smell good, and feel good. Even with all the toys and extras that embellish our lives, even when we’ve been endowed with the right attributes to be appealing to others, we may still be internally undesirable and bland.

As we discovered with cakes, our external appearance may be attractive sexually but we lack important attributes that make us pleasing on the inside. The frosting and trimmings may look luscious but there is nothing more to our character than too much sugar.

We need to be the type of person that people want to be around because we make them feel better. People need to know that they can trust us with their inner fears and the precious desires of their hearts. We can be the soft place to fall when someone hurts or their our spirit aches from the hardships of life.

Unfortunately, society teaches us that we need to be the beautiful cake in order to be acceptable to others.  Nothing can be further from the truth.  For example, my friend was no’t good looking, perhaps even ugly, but he always had tons of girls around him.  He was fun to be around and was good to his dates. I loved dancing with him friends when specific songs came on because he was so much fun to dance with.  He was my buddy.

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