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Video: Sex, Marriage and Other Fairytales

Posted on April 25, 2012 at 12:26 am

Uploaded by bball1989 on Jan 26, 2012

Marriage today is struggling. Divorces, adultery, misconceptions, etc are plaguing not only the marriage itself but products of those marriages (my generation and the next). My hope in this poem is to highlight the most frequent and problematic issues marriages face today while also pointing to Jesus as the ultimate healer, redeemer, and restorer of every marriage. Whether single or married, my intention would be that this poem would allow you to look more deeply to Jesus to either better your current marriage, or prepare for your future marriage.

Some people have an unrealistic attitude about marriage. They believe marriage and love are like those we read about or see in the movies.

They think people don’t fight if they love each other, but if they do, the “Making Up” is far better than could have been imagined.
They think their love will never die, that it will last forever. What they don’t understand is that love must be nurtured and well taken care of or it will whither and die.
People think their love will take them through all trials and turmoil. However, if the union is not cherished and nurtured properly, trials and times of turmoil will tear them apart.
People must build trust in each other and in their spouse’s judgment. Without trust in each other, they will be too afraid or insecure to follow the other’s advice and judgment.
Working against each other instead of with each other is one of the greatest downfalls in marriage.

Marriage, sex, and raising children are the most important activities you will ever experience in this life. Together, these activities can be a great blessing or a curse for us. These same activities can make or break a person, bringing out the best in us or the worst as well. We can grow and excel in life when these activities are balanced and in good health. However, when we have sex and children outside of the marriage covenant, our lives are pushed out-of-balance and greater efforts must be taken to put ourselves in balance and live a healthy life.

Children are not meant to be born outside of the marriage covenant or in an unhealthy relationship. Children need to be nurtured by both the mother and the father in a union that has love and respect. Children learn from both of their parents how to live appropriately in society. They learn how to respect women from their fathers and his role in society, just as they learn how to respect their fathers from their mothers and her role at home and publicly.

Making sure that we develop healthy relationships, healthy attitudes about sex, and a healthy marriage are all essential for a healthy family and a healthy society. Children living in a healthy marriage teaches them how to be a healthy family and a responsible member of society. Not knowing how to be a healthy member of a family, a healthy parent or spouse, or accountable in our sexual activities will confuse children and reap an irresponsible and unaccountable society.

This video describes what I’ve been saying about relationships, sex, and marriage and why it is so important to be responsible in performing these activities. All you have to do is look around you for good examples and bad examples of being accountable for your actions and why society needs you to be the best you can be when participating in these activities. Healthy attitudes about sex and marriage will create a better and longer lasting relationship.

Dr. Phil talks about have a number of incomes coming into your live in order to be balanced and a happy person. Family units function best in a loving and caring environment that is supported by the following incomes being in balance:

Spirituality and Religion (People who become fanatical about religion and make everything and
everyone around them believe as they do is not an income being balanced.)
Hobbies and sports can become so time consuming that the person or persons involved don’t have time for anyone or anything else in their life.
The same situation can occur when people become too involved with community efforts or a second job (or network marketing business). The reasons for being involved my be good ones but cannot make up for the imbalance that it causes in ones’s life.
Computer activities such as internet shopping, social chat rooms, or social websites and games can become very destructive to a family whose mother, father, or children neglect their responsibilities at home/work/school.
Spending addictions or any other form of addiction is extremely damaging to a balanced and healthy family unit. Until the person with an addiction gets help and overcomes it, there cannot be balance in the family.